Weight loss transitions: Improve your bedroom confidence

October 14, 2013 - Psychology

200355198-001Many LighterLife clients tell us that after their weight loss, their approach to sex can change. It’s true that a good sex life is often the barometer of the health of a relationship and the healthier we are, the better we feel. With that in mind, here’s some advice on how to improve your confidence in the bedroom.

Active sex can lower blood pressure and reduce stress, and burns at least 85 kcal per 30 minutes! Much more fun that the gym. Not only do we get the aerobic effect but the toning too, and all at the same time! So we know that sex can be good for you, but what if you’ve lost your confidence? You may have reached your weight loss goals, but how do you get back that sparkle in the bedroom?

One of the reasons people have sex is to feel good about themselves, but if you choose to feel good about yourself anyway, you’re more likely to want sex, and if it’s good you’ll feel even better.

Zelda West-Meads, agony aunt for the Mail on Sunday, counsellor and psychosexual therapist, says feeling confident in the bedroom is very important for great sex.

‘Create emotional intimacy, so you each feel truly loved, desired and open to each other,’ she advises. ‘Don’t be self-critical and dwell on the parts of your body you don’t like. Instead, concentrate on what you do like about yourself – your hair, your eyes, your legs, your skin.

‘Understanding each other and discovering what gives your partner pleasure, and sharing with him what you enjoy, is the key to good love-making. So is taking lots of time over foreplay. Why rush something so lovely? Trying different positions and sharing fantasies can also help to keep that spark alive.’

For more tips and advice, check out the latest issue of LighterLife magazine. Not subscribed? You can get your copy here.