Weight loss transitions: Five ways stop someone raining on your parade

February 17, 2014 - Psychology

1 rain parade2In an ideal world, everyone would be happy for you after your weight loss, but in reality there can be jealousy or negativity from some people who might want to bring you down a peg or two. So, how do you deal with it?

After you’ve lost weight, your confidence can improve but when people react negatively to your new physique, it can shake you up and make you feel bad about yourself. So, how do you stop that from happening and ensure that you stay positive? Here are some top tips…


1. Remember it’s not always about you.

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Sometimes it’s about them. Often people’s negative reactions are a projection of their own feelings of jealousy or inadequacy. Take time to ask them why they feel this way and if it is down to their own lack of self-esteem, help boost their confidence with a compliment.

2. Speak up for yourself.

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If they’re reacting negatively, it might be that they don’t understand why you’ve been on this weight loss journey. Explain to them how you felt before and why you feel better now. Don’t just sit in the corner – be assertive and show them that this part of a new you.

3. Celebrate the good times.

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There’s a reason you started this – you had a goal. Take some time to write down what those goals were and how far you’ve gone towards achieving them. Write down all the things that have made you feel good about doing this – whether it’s being able to fit into a special pair of jeans, or having more energy to run around with your kids. Reflect on all the positive things that you have gained and keep those in mind when people criticise you.

4. Keep your allies close.

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You’re not the only one who’s experienced this kind of reaction. If you’re struggling to deal with it, do speak to others in your LighterLife group and see how they dealt with it. You’re not alone – others are on this journey too and can often help put things into perspective.

5. Be yourself.

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If you listened to every negative comment you ever received, you’d never do anything. The best way to deal with these attitudes is to address them head-on, talk about them and then do what makes you happy. Love yourself and trust that you know what’s best for you.

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One thought on “Weight loss transitions: Five ways stop someone raining on your parade

Collette Lord

I had a mate tell me that “you have become far too big for your boots, bragging and boastful.” I thanked her for drawing it to my attention…. no point getting annoyed….

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