Weight loss transitions: Facing your fears

August 15, 2013 - Psychology

face your fears 164549264_smallDuring your weight loss journey, there will be points when you must face up to things you had previously avoided. It’s important to recognise these things and deal with them in order to move on. Here are four things you no longer need to be afraid of…

1. Failure
Failure doesn’t exist. We can choose to frame mistakes as failures but they are often the best learning curves. People who strictly see themselves as either a ‘success’ or a ‘failure’ are more likely to suffer depression at some point in their lives. They depend on external fixes like promotions at work or having well-mannered children to feel worthy – instead of being fulfilled from within.

2. Fat
Don’t apologise for being a bigger size by slouching and hiding in corners. If your body language is confident you’ll have a more positive presence… no matter what. In fact, whatever your shape – embrace it!

3. Accepting compliments
Acknowledging praise doesn’t make you arrogant. This is a key lesson from transactional analysis (TA). If you get a compliment simply say, ‘thank you’. Accepting positive recognition may seem strange at first but feels great the more you practise it.

4. Being labelled a bitch
If everybody likes you then you’re probably not saying much or being yourself. You can’t please everyone all of the time and you don’t have to spend your life explaining yourself. If your conscience is clear then swallow your pride and know you’re being true to yourself.