Weight loss tips: Five ways to be your own wingman

March 31, 2014 - Psychology

wingman larger 78293939.jpgAre you guilty of starting a diet, only to give up at the first hurdle? Here, we help you to stop self-sabotaging and start supporting yourself to achieve your weight loss goals…

1. Visualise your goals
Many of us start diets full of verve and energy, only to give up after a couple of weeks once the excitement has faded. We start to see the diet as a chore, rather than a positive life change. To keep on track, and your mind on your goals, draw a picture or make a collage of what you hope your life will be like when you reach your weight-loss target. Stick it on your fridge or somewhere you’ll see it every day. ‘Drawing pictures that represent your goals activates the right brain and powerfully connects your goals to your subconscious,’ says life coach Brian Mayne, founder of Lift International. ‘Looking at it every day will reinforce the command on your subconscious, helping you to override any negativity or self-doubt that may have crept in your mind.’

2. Role play
On any weight-loss plan, there are bound to be times when you’re challenged by others to abandon your goals and just have that slice of cake or enjoy a boozy night out. Prepare yourself for these times by practising in advance some responses. ‘This will help you to “own” your choices in these situations – rather than just being submissive and discounting yourself to please others,’ explains addiction specialist Mandy Cassidy.

3. Bin the takeaway menus
Do you have Domino’s on speed dial or a drawer full of home-delivery menus? Well, now is the time to take action! ‘Like an old boyfriend, sometimes you’ve just got to let go,’ says Mandy. ‘You’ll be less likely to stray from your goals if you get rid of the visual cues that tempt you to overeat.’

4. Stop and think
You’ve been five days on LighterLife and suddenly it’s Friday night. ‘Go on, have a drink, you deserve it,’ says the little voice in your head. But, before you grab the corkscrew and pour the wine… STOP. Ask yourself, ‘How will I feel tomorrow if I open this?’ THINK about why you’re doing LighterLife in the first place. What are your motivations and goals? ‘By focusing on the bigger picture, rather than just the moment, you’ll be more inclined to step away from the wine and stick to your diet,’ says Mandy.

5. Try something new
For many of us, our social lives go hand in hand with food and drink. Birthday parties, meeting up with friends, weddings, dating… Break the habit by taking up a new hobby or interest. It doesn’t need to be fitness-related – join a photography or art class, look up your geneaology, join a drama group, start a blog. ‘Doing something for yourself can be hugely empowering and great for the self-esteem,’ says Mandy. ‘It can also help you to establish a sense of self, away from food and drink.’

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