Five rules to unlearn

May 21, 2013 - Psychology

5_rules_to_unlearn_600wideOur culture is rife with ideas that inhibit joy. Here are some things we all should unlearn.

1. I’m forever damaged by the past
Painful events leave scars but they’re not necessarily permanent. You can heal the past by learning more positive ways of thinking. Your brain can quickly begin to let go of the old stuff and adapt to the new.

2. It matters what people think of me
Adopt the mantra: ‘What other people think of me is none of my business!’ Make a list of what you’d do if it absolutely didn’t matter what people thought of you. Use this as collateral to help you stop worrying about other people’s stuff.

3. If all my wishes came true life would be perfect
People who seemingly have it all can be the most miserable. Any external thing we rely on for happiness, including romantic love, money, work success or fame, is subject to impermanence and therefore only a temporary ‘fix’. What’s more, dreams that become reality are often a huge anti-climax, creating new pressures.

4. Beauty equals happiness
As many a beautiful woman (or man) will tell you, they get looked at all the time yet virtually no-one sees them. They can also find themselves attracting shallow, beauty-obsessed partners and friends.

5. It’s important to be happy
It’s alright to be sad and angry sometimes, too. Repressing emotions is unhealthy. Find a good friend and let it all out.

2 thoughts on “Five rules to unlearn

maeve O Callaghan

Im interested in recommencing Lighter life program can you let me know where the nearest councellers are in the Cork area


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