LighterLife tips: The singles’ guide to Christmas

December 12, 2013 - Sex & Relationships

100238417Single this Christmas? Fear not! This is a great time of year to get out there to enjoy the festive fun – and potentially meet someone special along the way. Read our top tips on how to put yourself first this Christmas and maybe find ‘the one’…

1. Accept the invite!
It might sound obvious, but it’s so easy to just hibernate by yourself when the weather gets colder. If you want to meet people, the best thing you can do for yourself is say ‘yes’ once in a while! This time of year there are likely to be lots of invitations floating your way, from work Christmas parties, to festive concerts and gatherings. Try to attend as many of them as you can and don’t be afraid to turn up by yourself – it’s highly likely you won’t be the only one. If you’re feeling a bit self-conscious, watch this video on how to break the ice with people you don’t know.

2. Take a friend
Not everyone has the confidence to fly solo, so if you are feeling a bit nervous, why not invite a single friend along with you to your Christmas parties? This is totally acceptable these days, and many people take a friend as their plus one. Having a ‘wingman’ (or woman!) will give you more confidence in social situations, and you can also bounce off one another while talking to eligible bachelors or bachelorettes.

3. Look for local singles events
Believe it or not, you’re not the only one this Christmas who would love a date! There are many other men and women who long for a relationship, and they will be looking as hard and as you. There are loads of websites available for single people to meet like-minded people in their city or town – and it doesn’t have to be through a one-on-one date! Check out to find singles events in your area.

4. Do something different
There’s a saying that goes ‘if you do what you’ve always done, you’ll get what you’ve always got’, and this applies to dating too. Widen your social loop and do something different. Sign up to your local church choir, help out at a homeless shelter, or grab your friends and mingle with the locals at the pub quiz. Doing things outside your main social group will open doors to new faces. It sounds like a cliche, but love often knocks on your door when you least expect it!

5. Be kind to yourself
So you may not have a partner showering you with gifts this year, but that doesn’t mean you can’t treat yourself. Christmas is a time of indulgence, so why not start with you? Make sure you buy yourself something special to open Christmas day – even if it’s something little like a luxurious bubble bath, or perhaps a nice film to watch. It’s important to remember that you deserve a treat too.

6. Appreciate those closest to you
As well as the gifts, Christmas is about showing appreciation for those who have been there for you all year. While you may not be dating, there are bound to be family members or friends who would appreciate your time and company. And this year, instead of feeling awkward when they ask ‘how’s the love life?’, reel off all of the fabulous things you’ve been up to over the last year – no time for dating!

7. Be open to new beginnings
As one year ends and another begins, now is a good time to think about what you want. Concentrate on what will make you happy in the year ahead and make a list. Whether it’s to reach a weight loss goal, a career change, a new hobby, travelling, or even signing up to online dating, you’ve got no one else to consider other than yourself. So start planning how you can make 2014 your best year yet!

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